One of my biggest challenges since I left the corporate world to walk my own path was constantly under-valuing myself.
I was doing it in all areas of my life but especially relationships and finances. I did it while I was working as an English teacher, in selling my art and charging ridiculously low as a therapist and healer.
It was painful because I worked so hard on myself for so many years to be ME, to be this amazing woman that everybody was talking about, yet I didn’t feel it, definitely see it but couldn’t own it.
That made me frustrated, angry with myself, trapped, hopeless and many times desperate because I just didn’t know what else I could do. I’ve been working on myself for 14 years, million hours of therapy and self-work and still playing small, still holding back, still not believing in my amazingness.
My dream has always been helping others. I did it through motivating, kicking asses, through my optimism, my joy for life, giving hope, showing example but when I decided to do it as a living things weren’t flowing.
Long story short: I had issues with money.
First I discovered I was angry at money, then I discovered my whole family had resentment against money, then I did more therapy, more reprogramming and well I didn’t stop until I released everything which I could possibly find and could hold me back to create an extraordinary life just the way I’ve imagined it.
It turns out it was never about the money, it was about me. All this time I was looking for something that was out there, trying desperately to figure out the “hows” and the “whens”. It was all along about my worth, my value.
If deep down we feel unworthy and not good enough for any reason, we will under-value ourselves all our life in basically everything. No matter how amazing people see us, how much we know, how much experience we have, how smart, how talented, how absolutely amazing we are, WE WILL ALWAYS play small, hold back, hide, sabotage our success, our possibilities, our future, afraid to ask an equal share for what we deliver.
BUT this doesn’t have to be like this. You can leave behind, release and let go of these beliefs no matter what happened in the past, no matter how long you’ve been carrying it with you. And the good news: it can be done fast thanks to my blueprint I created based on this past 15 years.
If you are an ambitious woman with a big dream, you want to make a difference in the world, you want to help others, it's UNFAIR to hold back from your potential students, clients, customers, the world.
You are here with a purpose, you own it to yourself and the Universe to start living your TRUE and GREATEST potential, to share your unique knowledge, experience, skills and talents with 100% confidence, certainty and trust, owning it, truly owning it.
It’s time to SHINE your LIGHT. It's time to live your PURPOSE.
Today I would like to share the story of a client of mine. It’s a powerful story that will help you see and understand how our past experiences can influence and impact our present life.
I mainly help women to open up for true love and create amazing, loving relationships but when a man comes to see me I happily accept to help as no matter our gender our pain and hurts are the same and we all crave love, importance and acceptance.
This man is in a happy and loving relationship but he feels that he is very far from his highest potential. His financial situation is a disaster. He would like to provide a better life to his love partner but he doesn’t really feel the ambition, the power behind his intentions, that innate masculine fire. There is a consistent fight inside of him which leaves him angry, frustrated, empty and tired.
When we started working together he told me that he used to be very assertive and confident. In high school he used to be the leader of his group of friends. After only a couple of sessions we were able to locate the exact time where he lost himself.
He was 20. He was in a happy relationship. They were planning to move together, they had many amazing and promising plans for the future. He found a job to finance their plans. One day, the girlfriend suddenly left him for another man. He felt shocked, confused, rejected, worthless and unable to cope. He was depressed for one year.
During this time he came to an important conclusion: “It isn't worth it!”
My efforts were not paid off, I can be rejected at any time so it just isn't worth it.
Without being aware of it, he got trapped in this trauma.
He lived the rest of his life in this one belief, “it just isn’t worth the effort.”
He realized immediately that since that time he wasn’t able to connect deeply with any of his later girlfriends, to the point of sabotaging all the relationships which were becoming more serious because of the fear of being abandoned and rejected.
This was the reason for never being able to plan for the future, keeping him in a constant survival state, being trapped into this “just getting by” mode.
And so his life was an exact mirror of this belief as our beliefs are the reasons behind our actions.
After the session he said: “Oh my God, I feel like a new man. I found again who I really am. I was lost, locked in my pain and misery.
Now I’m ready to truly live!”
Later he called me just to tell me that his love for his girlfriend has noticeably intensified as fear, worry and insecurity left his body.
These stories always leave me shocked and puzzled. It happens over and over again but I can’t get used to them.
It shows us how powerful are our unsolved past experiences, trapped emotions, subconscious beliefs when it comes to creating a happy and fulfilling life.
There is no need for years and years of therapy, change can happen easily and naturally when we are ready and determined to take responsibility for our happiness.
No matter if you are single or in a relationship you can find and feel more love. It all starts with you, me, us.
We heal, we open up, we feel, we love, we share, we make this world a better place.
This might be the best time in history to awaken to your True Self and Superhuman Powers!
But you might ask, What is my True Self?
True Self is beyond our obsessive thoughts, beyond our limiting beliefs, beyond our trapped emotions, beyond our patterns. When you release all that, the baggage from your past experience and life lessons which you've been carrying around all your life, your True Self, your joyful and playful nature will shine through. This is what we are all looking for: clarity, a sense of inner knowing, trust and inner peace no matter what's going on in the outer world.
These days, the days of uncertainty give us the right soil to do this work. We are triggered every day to look closely to our hurts and pains through fear, worry, anxiety, desperation, frustration...
We can go into defense mode and act unconsciously out of our old patterns or do inner work and become more conscious.
Doing inner work and raising our consciousness is the most important task now. To start releasing the old stuck energy that is holding us in the same mind patterns is fundamental for creating a different future.
Why is it important? Because if we don't change the way we think, the way we feel and the way we behave everything will stay the same. Same money blocks, same relationship problems, same illnesses, same choices, same triggers, same reactions, same issues...
How do we do that?
Educate ourselves on the vastness of spiritual and scientific material out there, videos, books, online tv, self-help techniques, practice meditation, reflect about the big questions of your life, start talking about it with friends who are open to it, look for professional help to accelerate this journey.
Where to look and what to look for?
I will give some tips which helped me on my own journey.
How to enhance the power of the mind, heal yourself and create a new reality:
I will stop here for now. I hope this can give you some inspiration.
Another amazing place to look for empowering series, documentaries and more is "the Netflix of spirituality": www.Gaia.com
It's not free but definitely it's worth it.
For those of You who are a lifetime seeker, who have been working on yourself for years and you feel that you know a lot about your blockages, limitations, patterns, see yourself from outside but still feel stuck, powerless to change and act differently and create a different reality, I am here to help.
I guide you through your subconscious mind and help you "reprogram" your early childhood limiting beliefs which create your identity and are responsible for your everyday decisions, actions and reactions.
As you know we are multidimensional beings, so it shouldn't be a big surprise to you at this point that some blockages can come from beyond this life experience.
In many cases this is the situation especially with those of you who have been on their journey for 10-15-20 years. The blockages can be in past lives, ancestors patterns, soul group or even 6D. That's why you don't/ can't experience real and lasting change in your life.
After releasing those you'll be free to start consciously creating what you desire with no restrictions.
As a motivation message for all of you who is reading this: we are living in amazing times, there is hope, there are ways to escape the never ending cycles of life lessons, go beyond everything we thought we know and start creating a different reality, a better one, a sustainable one, where we can manifest from our hearts the love, connection, abundance we so much desire.
<On the way to 5D> :)
I have to admit, all last week and even beginning of this week, I was feeling quite lost, unmotivated, kind of hopeless and uninterested.
It’s very rare that I feel this way, as I consciously and regularly work on myself, but I have to say it taught me a huge lesson.
When I’m in my “high zone” it’s quite easy to stay there as soon as there is some momentum. Optimism attracts optimism, good vibes attract more good vibes, more energy, more lightness and more opportunities. But be aware it also works the other way around!
This morning I met some very inspiring and positive friends, we are working on a local website soon to be launched and that almost instantly put me back in the right mindset.
So where to go to find motivation?
Most of us were taught that our happiness, our security depends on the outside world and that we have no control, no influence on what’s happening. The only tools we have is hope and prayer.
Having this belief can make these chaotic times very difficult for most of us.
Giving all our control to forces outside of us, believing that there is nothing we can do will leave us powerless, worried, fearful and paralised.
But it doesn't have to be like this.
There is so much we can actually do.
Science says: “A person it’s a product of his/her own thoughts and beliefs. We are what we believe.”
Each of us are creators of our lives. We do it through our thinking, beliefs, behaviour, values, identity.
We have to take responsibility for our own thoughts, beliefs and actions. What was working before it’s not working anymore. It’s a fact.
It’s time for us to grow up, stop looking for someone to blame and stop waiting for somebody who will save us (the government, the vaccine, new rules and regulations, Jesus).
The only way out is taking responsibility for our own happiness, finances, life, looking beyond the drama, seeing the greater picture, start working together, making a difference in others life, supporting and encouraging, becoming a better and wiser person than we were yesterday.
The sooner we understand that we create our life and personal reality the sooner we can create a different one.
Adopt a positive attitude. The attitude “I can, I will” generates the power, skill and energy to do it. When we believe we can, the “how to do it” develops.
Limiting thought and beliefs stop even our best efforts to change our life. Only new empowering beliefs can fire new habits and new action and change our life for the better.
We have to educate ourselves, realize that we are powerful conscious beings and our environment is the result of what we created unconsciously.
Look for books that inspire you. The more knowledge we gain - the more we read or learn about people who have done what we are setting out to do - the more inspired we are to make the possibility become reality.
Be conscious of what you are feeding your mind with. Whatever you put your attention on will start growing in your world. Choose to fill your world with uplifting, inspiring and empowering things than fearful and disempowering news. Either you believe or not in the Law of attraction, it applies to you too: alike attracts alike.
Surround yourself with people who believe that we create our own reality and consciously, systematically work towards a greater vision, a better world, an amazing future.
The only way out is knowledge, support, connection, love. We are all one, we were just made to believe we are each other's enemies, competitor, that there is lack and we have to fight to survive.
The truth couldn't be further from reality.
Open up and discover how powerful you are. Discover how by changing your thinking and beliefs, your emotions will follow, then your actions will be fueled with passion and power.
Then the more momentum it gets the easier it will be to thrive despite the “illusorical” chaos of the outside world.
Are you living your life on autopilot?
As some of you know I’ve officially started my business as a therapist and helping practitioner last year.
I wholeheartedly committed to helping others to overcome mental and emotional limitations so they can consciously create a more fulfilling life and experience more love, joy and abundance.
I’ve been on my healing, learning and spiritual journey for more than 14 years but since I stepped into my “role”, my experience was taken to a completely different level.
Last year and especially the last few months were extremely intense for me, in a positive way, one deep transformation followed by the other, expanding in ways I couldn’t have imagined and it looks like this is just the beginning of what is possible, for me and for many of us, as new times are unfolding.
The way I see myself, others and life itself evolved tremendously.
I’ve arrived at a completely different understanding of who we are and how we create our life, more precisely our personal reality through our personality: out of our old patterns, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, behaviour, values and identity. Most of the time completely unconsciously, like robots in human suits, completely not aware of what’s going on.
We try so hard to change our life but with no intention to change ourselves, the way we think, what we believe, what we do and how we do it, our values and who we want to be.
After years of trying to figure out how to use the Law of attraction to “get” everything I perceived to lack and so wanted to have, I’ve finally understood its real role and nature.
I can see now why it didn’t work at the time and why it’s not working for so many people. We are so off track. We completely misunderstood it.
It all begins with understanding that there is NoBody, NoGod out there who will deliver you what you want. There is NoBody outside of you.
You are IT! You are an expression of The thing you call life, it’s an expression, an extension of YOU. Everything you are, the TOTALITY of you.
It’s a translation of YOU into reality.
Our daily experiences bring contrast into our life. The more we experience unwanted things, the more we long for the opposite. We start desiring different experiences, better ones, we want to feel different, less worry, less struggle, less suffering, more joy, more freedom, more abundance, more love, more adventure, better life condition, better relationships, fulfilling job...
Then one day we step on the awakening path, we find out that after all, we might not be a victim of life, that we have a voice, that we can take responsibility for our life, we have power, we are told about the Law of attraction and how we can and we Do attract everything into our life, so we decide to create a different life, a better one, an amazing one.
And damn we try hard. I definitely did.
Soon we find ourselves in another struggle, more frustration, more pain, another trap but at least this is a promising one. It promises you Heaven on Earth, all the goodies you miss now. A big house, perfect relationship, abundance, travel, amazing friends, the business of the year, the car of your dreams.
You do everything you can, everything they teach you: you visualize, you write it down in a diary, you meditate, you create vision boards, mind movies, you go to therapy, workshops, listen to masterclasses, read hundreds of books, even go to India hoping that the Guru you’d heard about might help you to get Enlightened and then finally you are saved.
After years of trying, you start to realize something is off, it doesn't work: you still have the same old car, no perfect lover, no millions in the bank, no holidays around the world, no dream body, no dream home.
You feel more frustrated than before, disappointed, hopeless, sad, disillusioned, fed up and you conclude life is shit. It might work for others but it definitely does not work for you and you give up.
You are right, something is not OK.
But there is nothing wrong with you!
In order to understand what’s “wrong”, we have to go back to basics, Beyond Affirmations, the Power of Will and Positive Thinking
Your reality is created by your beliefs.
These generally subconscious beliefs are often the result of a lifetime of "programming" and represent a very powerful influence on human behavior. Studies in neuroscience indicate that at least 95% of our consciousness is subconscious reality.
The subconscious mind is the storehouse of our attitudes, values and beliefs. It is through these beliefs that we form our perceptions about the world and ourselves, and from these perceptions we develop our behaviors.
Usually it is the behaviors that limit us that we want to change. Often, the most effective way to change a behaviour is to change the subconscious beliefs that sustain it.
My work is to quickly identify and transform the beliefs that "limit" you into beliefs that "support" you in any area of your life.
Many people have subconsciously limiting beliefs in the area of spirituality, self-esteem, body and health issues, economic prosperity, relationships, or career.
Until you change these, your life can only reflect your programs.
PSYCH-K helps you communicate directly with your subconscious mind quickly and easily, while using "Brain-integrated" methods - exchanging self-limiting beliefs for supportive self-improvement beliefs!
Try it out for yourself. I’m based in Mallorca but I work all over the world, online.
When we came into this World, we were a bundle of Joy.
We were perfect, we were innocent, we were Pure Love but soon we realized we were dependent on our environment, circumstances and most importantly the people around us.
We tried to understand what’s going on, tried to integrate, to be accepted because our lives literally depended on it, we did this through our senses and emotions. Our thinking brain develops by age 7.
Seven years of decoding your environment and making meaning out of it.
We really tried hard but we just couldn’t understand the world of the adults, we didn’t understand their games, we didn’t understand their fears, their suffering, their thoughts and beliefs, their illogical behavior.
We eventually believed that everything happening around us was somehow our fault. We felt our parents suffering and we felt their pain but we didn’t understand and we believed it had to do with Us.
We’ve believed that everything that was happening around us, with us, to us is something we must have deserved. This is how we made sense of the world.
We just took it all in, no filters.
Early in our lives we believed that we should be different, we shouldn’t speak that much, we should shut up in the world of the adults, as our thoughts were not as valid as theirs, we don’t “know” enough, we should suppress our emotions, be a good boy or a good girl, never cry, never be angry, never fight back or protect ourselves and only do what we are told, when we are told.
We believed we are not good enough in the eyes of our loved ones because they were emotionally or physically inaccessible.
We believed that we are not lovable because we didn’t get the attention, the unconditional love, we so longed for.
We believed we are not important because there were times we only wanted to be seen, to be noticed, heard but our caretakers just didn’t have time.
We believed that we are not worthy because the “adults” many times used their power, their authority and control to push their will through.
We believed... and we still do!
No matter how old you are now, 25, 37, 43 or 68, deep inside in your core, you still believe you’re not enough, you are not lovable or important, you don’t deserve, you’re not worthy. Your whole life is a quest to prove that you are.
Your whole life is a quest to feel otherwise. Everything you do in your life, unconsciously is to prove the opposite.
Those are your core beliefs, your programs, bedded deep in your subconscious mind.
We are so not aware.
We secretly believe that if we just find the right partner we will finally feel loved, worthy and important. That if we attain the perfect body we will be wanted, desired and loved.
We secretly believe if we become successful, build a legacy and become a millionaire, we will finally be able to prove everybody that we do worth it, that we are enough, that we deserve.
We secretly believe that if we become Somebody, that people will acknowledge us and recognize our talents and worth and they will finally SEE us!
Listen to me! I’m here to tell you: No matter what happened to you, it was NOT your fault, you didn’t deserve it!
It was not my fault, I didn’t deserve it! My dear Sister it was not your fault, you didn’t deserve it! My dear Mother it was not your fault, you didn’t deserve it! Dad, you didn’t deserve it!
They were blind, they were deaf, they were acting out of pain and desperation. They did what they could.
You are Enough, You are amazing, You are so lovable, so precious and unique just because you are here! ...against all odds.
I feel your pain. I do. It took me years to heal, accept, release, let go, understand, forgive.
Until you change these beliefs you will never find lasting peace because your outside world can only reflect your inside world.
You can cover it up, you can pretend, you can play, you can lie to yourself and others, you can act, you can learn to use the Law of attraction, you can visualize and create mind movies and vision boards and read hundreds of books and do past life regression and future telling, and do yoga and meditation and talk about your pain to a psychologist for years, but the pain won’t go away.
But there is hope, freedom is closer than you think.
There is a way out and it doesn’t need to last decades. We can change these beliefs, easily and painlessly, right in your subconscious mind.
Only by changing your beliefs, can you change your life, your reality, the things, situation, people you attract in your life.
You are a survivor! You are amazing!
It’s time to heal, it’s time to remember.
We are in it together, as family, as nation, as humanity. The only way we can heal the future generations and the world is by healing ourselves first.
Feeling once again: whole and complete. Truly whole and complete and start loving ourselves.
It’s over! No need to prove anything to anybody anymore. No need to justify, no need for confirmation, no need to compromise.
It’s time to leave that bad and unloving relationship, get out of that job you hate and where they undervalue you, leave loneliness behind, it’s time to say goodbye to a sick body and to a “fine” life and start creating a new one.
It’s time to start living from WHO you really ARE!
It’s time to make your dreams come true, surround yourself with love, joy and abundance.
You can be free.
You are LOVED.
Why are people suffering?
I hope you are ready for one of the biggest revelations of your life. At least it’s been to me when I first heard this and let it sink in, then gradually implemented it in my life.
It changed me completely.
The main reason for our suffering are thoughts. Yes, exactly. More precisely believing our thoughts as being real, true.
Does that sound weird?
Just read on.
We know as a fact from science that thoughts trigger emotions. That means that the way you think soon starts to be the way you feel.
For example if you have a thought about you not being enough, very soon you will feel sad, disappointed, demotivated.
But if you think about the night out with your best friends, you feel joyful, happy, hopeful.
Let that sink in!
We believe thinking happens to us and we have no control of what’s going on in our heads. This is true until you start awakening, becoming more and more conscious and taking back the control. With no “boss” in position, chaos is normal.
You can choose your thoughts!
I remeber years ago when I heard this, I didn't really understood what that means. Later in an Echart Tole's videos I've also heard, thinking as such is unneccesary. Most of your day you don't need thinking. I found that funny. I mean I've had short periods of times when there is was no thinking but completly turning it off for hours is definetly something a lot of us would love to experience! Just Silence :D
Of course it needs practice like everything else.
It starts by becoming more and more aware of what’s going on inside you. Coming back to Here and Now, connecting to yourself more and more often. Checking in: What am I thinking about all day long, what are my recurring thoughts? how do I feel most of the time?
You will find your patterns. We have around 70.000 thoughts a day, but 95% of them are the same as the previous day. That's shocking!
Why is important to start this little self-observation quest?
These are the first glimpse of freedom. You Consciousness will start expanding. You start realizing that you can observe what you think, and even later choose what you think, you start taking back control over your life.
Take responsibility for what's going on in there and start changing it.
And most importantly your thoughts and emotions are the KEYS to a new future.
Science proved: our thoughts and emotions create our reality.
The way you think and the way you feel create an electromagnetic field around you which has a vibration, and this vibration attracts situations, people, circumstances which are alike. Alike attracts alike. This is the Law of attraction.
Start it today. With little steps. The more you connect with the present moment the more momentum will take.
Start choosing thoughts that make you feel good.
Choose to think about all the things you have rather than what you don’t have.
Think about all the reasons you love where you are, all the reasons you love what you do, all the reasons that prove how lucky you are, how many people love you and how many people you love.
And just feel GRATEFUL.
Here and now.
In March this year life gave us an opportunity to retreat from our busy rat race, called Life.
We have been told for years that soon, big changes will come and will completely change life the way we know it. And still we were taken by surprise.
After years of being a part time helping practitioner, last year I decided to become a full time coach and therapist. I'd been working hard to lay the foundation of a business, became self-employed, acquired some more certificates and accreditations, I've hired a business coach (investing all my saved money) and started building my strategy.
March was the launch month. Everything looked perfect, everything was finally lining up for me. I moved to Palma, at the beginning of March, to be closer to the buzz of life, to the opportunities, to events.
I had a signed contract, an amazing opportunity to work as a therapist for a luxurious Wellness Company, my first two retreats were coming up in April and I had two group-workshops booked in a few days in a local Spa.
I was super excited, thrilled to dive into my new city life and start living the life-style I'd been waiting for.
15 of March Spain goes into State of alarm followed by complete Lockdown and my dreams, hopes and plans fall to pieces.
The first few days were tough. Facing reality, that All is gone.
I was confused and disappointed, who wouldn't have been?
Then as a reaction and I think as a compensation, I started pushing myself and forcing myself in the new fashion of doing everything online. "Reinvent yourself", they were saying! So I tried to follow the New wave.
In the first few days I was beating myself up with all the: "I should..., I have to..., I need to...'s". But I just wasn't feeling it, it just didn't feel good.
So I stopped and decided to enjoy my lockdown. Do things I like doing, do things everybody is doing. So I did that. Watched Netflix for 2-3 days non-stop, read conspiracy theories for a couple of days, drank some wine and sunbathed.
It was fun but after a week I came to my senses and I heard my inner voice saying: "Ok, and now? What's next? What do you really want from life?"
And it was the day I went inside, I started meditating everyday, I joined online yoga classes (I'd never been a yoga lover before), I had uplifting and inspiring talks with my friends, I created a healthy routine, joined a 21 days abundance challenge and worked out all the fears, insecurity, worry and beliefs that were coming up as a result.
First time in my life I started to think long term. I mean in 10 years from now. It must sound silly or crazy considering the circumstances but it centered me. It gave me motivation and energy. It gave me hope. I got powerful guidance and insights through my meditations and a completely new future plan started to form in my imagination.
I became focused, present and energized. I new life started to unfold.
10 weeks later here I am, on my birthday feeling like a different person.
I've never been so sure and so confident in my life and this clarity naturally and effortlessly started to attract abundance and new opportunities in my life.
It was the best thing it could happen. An enormous blessing.
I'm endlessly grateful for my chosen path and for everything that enters in my life.
There are no good things and bad things, desirable and not desirable situations,
...there are only opportunities for growth.
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't you're right." - Henry Ford
I'm sure all of us have heard this famous quote by Henry Ford. He was an excepcional man. This one sentence sums up our entire reality.
So simple, yet so profound. Nowadays there are countless books written on this one topic. But why is this so important?
What's the message that today's big thinkers and scientists like Bruce Lipton, Rob Williams, Greg Braden, Dr. Joe Dispenza want us to get?
Well, is quite simple. Your beliefs are shaping your reality. You either know this or not, believe it or not, it looks like it's a fact.
So you will bring decisions, act, react, live your "life" accordingly to your beliefs. We have beliefs about everything: who we are, what we are capable of, about luck, about how the world works, about what is good and bad, about money, about God, about love and relationships, practically e v e r y t h i n g!
We don't care much about it, mostly because we don't know how important they actually are, and we don't examine them until life for some reason doesn't go the way we want.
So stop for a second and take an area of your life you are not happy with and check in. What do you believe about it? Most of our beliefs come from our early age, we took it from our caregivers and teachers. It's logical, as a child you don`t know anything about life so you watch, mime, listen and believe the grownups around you. They are so big, they must be right, they must know the truth. Later we build our lives on this information and filter everything through this database of knowledge called subconscious mind. Most of us never ever get to question these beliefs even when we so clearly see they aren't supporting our happiness.
One of my latest clients has just broken up from a 4 years relationship due to inability to express and accept love. Most of her life was almost completely shut down sexually. When we looked a little deeper into her problem we realised she doesn't have a pattern of how you have to do this. The parents never kissed, hugged or showed any kind of sensuality in front of their children. Love was tabu. So it wasn't a surprise that she had strange beliefs about relationship, love, sex and sensuality mixed with shame, guilt and unworthiness. Until the age of 42 she struggled in all her relationships.
Fortunately nowadays there are many techniques, methods and professionals who can help reprogram those beliefs, so you can create the experience you desire.
I can say her story is a happy ending one. She got back with her partner and their experience is better then ever.
Our partners are mirrors to our unsolved issues. There is never about who you are with. Choosing a different partner won't solve your problem. You are caring it with you until you face it and solve it. There is no other way. That's how we learn, grow and evolve.
You don't have to compromise and suffer. Choose happiness!
During the years I helped many students to get rid of their fear of speaking foreign languages. It is a very rewarding job and there are many success stories, but one really stands out.
One day a man came to see me. When I opened the door, there he was, a tall, bald, well-built man, all dressed in black. He was imposing.
He looked very nervous, preoccupied. I invited him in and we started talking. He told me about recently getting a job offer from England which he would gladly accept if there wasn’t for his unexplained, enormous fear to speak English. I right away asked him if he knows the reason, but he couldn’t recall anything.
It turned out he was an ex-police officer, who had also served in Afghanistan for a few years, being in the war zone on a daily basis. He was very brave, used to the nearness of death, but only the thought of communicating in English made him literary panic. No logical explanation.
We started working. I still clearly remember that one statement I made him repeat after me, while we were tapping: “Being a soldier I’m not afraid of dying, however I’m afraid to speak English”. And that changed everything. He said to me: “…hmm, but this is ridiculous”. I said: “Well, it is, but this is your reality”.
At the end of the session I asked him to imagine and visualize all the possible situations he could find himself in, during the interview and later during work and see how he feels. He told me he is excited, can’t wait to go and try, no trace of fear.
I’ve never seen him again. Later I’ve found out that he got the job and moved with his family to England.
We didn’t discovered the reason, there was no need. The fear dissolved as soon as consciousness shred a light onto it.
Fear is an interesting phenomenon. It`s an energetic block. Sometimes goes away instantly sometimes has different aspects to it which need to be addressed individually for the problem to disappear for good.