"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't you're right." - Henry Ford
I'm sure all of us have heard this famous quote by Henry Ford. He was an excepcional man. This one sentence sums up our entire reality.
So simple, yet so profound. Nowadays there are countless books written on this one topic. But why is this so important?
What's the message that today's big thinkers and scientists like Bruce Lipton, Rob Williams, Greg Braden, Dr. Joe Dispenza want us to get?
Well, is quite simple. Your beliefs are shaping your reality. You either know this or not, believe it or not, it looks like it's a fact.
So you will bring decisions, act, react, live your "life" accordingly to your beliefs. We have beliefs about everything: who we are, what we are capable of, about luck, about how the world works, about what is good and bad, about money, about God, about love and relationships, practically e v e r y t h i n g!
We don't care much about it, mostly because we don't know how important they actually are, and we don't examine them until life for some reason doesn't go the way we want.
So stop for a second and take an area of your life you are not happy with and check in. What do you believe about it? Most of our beliefs come from our early age, we took it from our caregivers and teachers. It's logical, as a child you don`t know anything about life so you watch, mime, listen and believe the grownups around you. They are so big, they must be right, they must know the truth. Later we build our lives on this information and filter everything through this database of knowledge called subconscious mind. Most of us never ever get to question these beliefs even when we so clearly see they aren't supporting our happiness.
One of my latest clients has just broken up from a 4 years relationship due to inability to express and accept love. Most of her life was almost completely shut down sexually. When we looked a little deeper into her problem we realised she doesn't have a pattern of how you have to do this. The parents never kissed, hugged or showed any kind of sensuality in front of their children. Love was tabu. So it wasn't a surprise that she had strange beliefs about relationship, love, sex and sensuality mixed with shame, guilt and unworthiness. Until the age of 42 she struggled in all her relationships.
Fortunately nowadays there are many techniques, methods and professionals who can help reprogram those beliefs, so you can create the experience you desire.
I can say her story is a happy ending one. She got back with her partner and their experience is better then ever.
Our partners are mirrors to our unsolved issues. There is never about who you are with. Choosing a different partner won't solve your problem. You are caring it with you until you face it and solve it. There is no other way. That's how we learn, grow and evolve.
You don't have to compromise and suffer. Choose happiness!